PLEASE I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP?

so i went on this cruise, and met this guy. he was really nice and we hung out a lot, but i never really had an interest in him, until the 4th night. that night we just hung out me and him the entire night laying down and talking. he was really sweet, and i knew that i'd prob start liking him. we were talking about everything, and the topic of me being a virgin came up. i told him i was a virgin, and he didn't believe me. he wasn't a virgin, but he told me i should really wait for someone i like, and then he said "and it's not going to be me." by the end of the night we ended up making out, and he slept over my room, and he even asked me if the next night we were gonna hang out. the next night he was in the casino, so my friend went to go get him from the casino to hang out. sure enough, he wanted to and came within 10 minutes(meanwhile he had been winning a lot of money), and he came to hang out. we went to his room, and we were hooking up and everything led to sex happening naturally, he didn't ask me flat out, and it happened the way i wanted it to, in the moment. when he was putting the condom on however, i asked him what he was doing, and he said "nothing"..i made sure he had a condom on, and he was really gentle, but he didn't talk much. at one point i asked him if he still had the condom on, and he let me feel to make sure it was still on. after we had sex, we went to the casino, and then i left to go to my room to lay down. he said he'd come back to hang out, but i didn't expect him to really. sure enough, he came knocking on my door to spend the night. the next night he had been looking for me, and he thought i was with another guy,so he got upset, and didn't hang out with me for two nights. by the 8th night we met up eventually..and i explained to him that i wasn't with another guy, and we ended up hanging out the whole entire night, me, my friend, and him. he kept saying how i was his girlfriend on the cruise, and that i would be his girlfriend if we lived in the same place. it just so happened i was going to college where he lived in about a year, and he knew that. that night we were hooking up again, and everything led to sex, and this time was even better. he said to me "you said you were a virgin right"..so i said "you remember what happened the other night right?"..and he was like "yeah, we had sex"..so i guess he was asking to be reassured that i was a virgin before him? then we were doing it for a long time, and he was talking a lot more, and physically helping me out, and he constantly asked me if i was alright, and that i need to tell him when to stop or when it hurts. i was in a lot of pain, so he suggested taking the condom off to see if it felt any better, it felt a lot better and it was only for 2 seconds, but he did say to me "the only thing is..if we take the condom off you might have to give me head"..well..i didn't end up giving him head, because i didn't want to. that night he slept over again, and we had plans to hang out the whole entire day the next day. the last night, we hung out the whole night..and then he kissed me on the lips goodbye. we exchanged myspaces and aim screen names, and after the cruise he commented me right away. we had talked back and forth for awhile..and at one point i thought he was avoiding me..so i wrote him a letter saying if you don't write back then i know you don't want anything to do with me, but he did write back, so that showed me that he cared. i ended up surprising him and visiting him one day, and he was really happy to see me. he told me i need to call next time so we can hang out..and he wanted to make sure i was definitely still coming to college near him. we talked for awhile, and then i had to leave..so he kissed me on the lips goodbye, and wrote to me about a week later asking me how my trip was, and telling me to call him next time.

6 months later my friend contacts him cause we are going to be in town auditioning for dance. he says of course lets hang out and invites us over. we spent time there and hung out but nothing happened between the two of us. we talked alone for about an hour and a half. he asked me if i was mad that he doesnt talk to me all the time, and i said no..its normal..we cant talk everyday. he told me to text him when i got back to the hotel, but within 10 minutes he texted me saying " thanks for coming, cant wait to see you again." we continued our convo and i eventually said goodnight have fun..and he said "all my fun left already"..then he commented me that night on myspace, and two nights later he texted me again..we talked for awhile and he asked me if i was mad that he had a gf for a month i said no..i just thought you forgot about me..and he said "nope" he explained how when i came to surprise him for a 10 minute visit it was like giving him a puppy and he was saying "can i keep it..is it mine?"..and then it got taken away from him. he told me it didnt matter what we did just as long as he got to see me. now its been about a week and we havent really been talking..i assume it might be because its hard to talk

do you think he likes me a lot? and do you think its normal not to talk?

PLEASE I REALLY NEED YOUR HELP?

If he does like you a lot, it will not be because of your ability to get to the point. I've read novels that were shorter than your question!

I am bringing this to your attention so that you realize how much you try to micro-manage your life instead of letting things take their natural course and to concentrate only on the most important events that occur, and yhou can count these significant events on the fingers of your hand.

By focusing so much on all the itty-bitty insignificant things that happen, you lose sight of the big picture. You cannot see the forest for the tree. Other than hitting you over the head with a hammer, or having a blimp fly over your house with the message, the truth is right there, staring you square in the face.

HE LIKES YOU!!

And, it is perfectly normal not to talk every second of every day. That is another problem you have: reading way too much into what is NOT said rather than paying attention to what has been said.

Most people do not realize that email communication is entirely different from any other form of communication. It is not like a regular paper letter. It is not like an Instant Message. It is not like a voice message left on your answering machine. It is totally different.

WHY?

Because people expect a response to an email to be instantaneous, just like an IM or SMS, when, in reality, it is absolutely NORMAL for it to take much, much longer.

WHY?

Because emails have to take a very convoluted path before reaching their destination, and they are subject to all kinds of bottlenecks and slowdowns, just like your car is when driving in traffic that has been detoured from a straight line course.

SO, when people do not get an email right away, what do they do?

PANIC for no good reason. They think, "Oh, he doesn't like me anymore" or "Something I did is causing him to not write" or "Maybe he found someone else" or any number of reasons that have nothing whatsoever to do with the truth.

Talking is hard to do via email because communication is more than 90% NONVERBAL, and email provides ZERO feedback in that department.

You ought to learn how to relax, and let the world unfold at its own pace. If a guy does not call you back after three days, then, and only then do you call back -- that is, if you twpo did not plan something to occur on a specific day and he does not show up.

BOTTOM LINE: You've got a potential BF here, so keep him interested in you, but BE SUBTLE! You've already slept with him, so you need to find other subjects and activities to share with him.

Good luck!